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Ken G
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| 03/23/2010 10:48 AM |
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I am male and enjoyed the books. My wife and I read them. I read for Women Only first and then for Men Only. They have changed my perspective of my wife's "Open Windows" and helped me see the importance of responding to her feelings prior to responding to the problem.
However when the books talk about the man being the Provider in general I feel the books are a little out dated. I live in a major metro corridor (Baltimore/DC) and all of our female friends work. I have a good job but my wife makes more than me and has the more demanding job. She travels so I cook and run the kids to practices etc.
Another example, I was in a client meeting with my VP and several higher ups from the client and some of our internal departments. My VP is a female, the head of the client contingent was a female as well as the majority of the leaders of the other departments.
I say all that to say this, early in our marraige I had to battle with my sense of self worth because I was not making enough money to cover everything and because she was making more.
I had to realize I was made in the image of Christ and my self worth was tied to him and not to the money I made and that I was still spiritually responsible to be the head of the home and "love my wife as Christ loved the church cleansing her with the washing of the water of the word". It did not have to do with who made the most money or if I made all of it and allowed her to stay home with the kids.
I still do desire to be the only bread winner but I am no longer defined by not being that. I say all this to say that your books seem to assume that the man is the provider and they really don't discuss any other alternative
and there are alternatives in todays society with all the intelligent succesful women around.
All I would say is men don't get down on yourself if you are not making the money you want to. Keep working to better your situation but God is with you and you regardless. |
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