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Rozanne
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| 12/22/2008 5:43 AM |
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Hi!
My name is Rozanne and I'm new to the forums here.  I read FWO and reeeeaaally enjoyed it!!
I wasn't sure wether to post this in the teens or adult forum, it's a kind of in-between question so I think I'll post in both and see what reactions I get.
It's something I specifically want to find out from GUYS!
I was wondering, what is it about a girl that makes a guy think, "I'll marry her."? A lot of my friends/people I know are getting married or want to get married and it's just something that I suddenly thought about. I know what qualities I (and I think women in general) would look for in a guy that would take him past "just another guy" to "might make a good husband" and I got to wondering  about the other side.
So what are those qualities that a guy looks for in a future wife, or that he sees in a girl that makes him think, "I want to marry her"?
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giddyupngo
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| 01/12/2009 1:14 AM |
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Hi Rozanne,
Just wanted to toss out a couple of ideas (as a guy ) that you might not often hear.
There is something very attractive in an independent woman. I don't mean this as in political or conservative/liberal terms. I mean a woman who doesn't seem to need a man, meaning she can take care of herself, is confident, and has full control and possession of herself. A contrasting example would be a woman who is always needy, always fishing for compliments, always worrying about finding the perfect guy. I don't know if I'm explaining this clearly, but words to describe a woman like this would be confident, joyful, hopeful. To be married is to make a complete gift of yourself (reserving nothing) to another, for life. If a woman does not have self control, or is dependent (in the worst sense), she can't give herself to another, because you can't give what you don't have.
Also, believe it or not, guys consider seriously women who remind them of their mothers (only the good qualities of course). Guys may seem to chase or pursue the flirt or the woman with the lowest neckline, but I don't know if they are on their "marriage list" if you know what I mean.
They want a woman who sees goodness and a future in them, who affirms them and builds them up, and is comfortable with herself. It is really true that "pretty is as pretty does". In other words, I remember from high school that the most physically attractive girls were not always the most popular, but the confident girls were. They believed they were something special, and others believed them.
This is kind of rambling, but there is my two cents. 
God Bless,
Dave
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BeforeHisthrone
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| 02/23/2009 7:00 AM |
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Hey guys!
Thanks for posting...it's interesting to read about relationships from two different angles.
Why is it that so many times women that are severely needy are the ones that get the guy at the end? I think so many times I see a lot of my friends ending up dating someone, because they play they portray themselves as extremely insecure and in need of direction, yet women that are independent are seen as overzealous or too outspoken. Even spiritually speaking...most guy friends I've talked with desire a girl that's sold after Christ and are strong in their identity in the Lord, yet I always see them pick the girls that have the lowest self esteem and base their relationship with the Lord on the guy's own walk with Christ. Any answers that you could give me would be much appreciated. I really wish I understood the inconsistencies I see.
Thanks so much!
I pray that God blesses you both!
At the cross,
Colleen
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frezo
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| 03/19/2009 5:27 AM |
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| we want to marry women who have confidence in themselves, who are not needy, who sees themselves as special people so that if we make them happy and special we will be confirming what they already have and evrything its gonna be alright. |
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flashbeaver
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| 03/19/2009 9:34 AM |
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Don't make this too complicated by asking someone what they think is attractive and then trying to be that.
Rozzane, be yourself. You can't turn yourself into something that you will be in the future. You are who you are now. Be that. And THAT is attractive. Not to everyone, but to someone.
Ask the Lord to set you up with someone. He IS the perfect match maker.
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jeffru6475
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| 04/02/2009 10:40 PM |
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First you need to understand what a mans basic make-up is.We are hunters,protectors,teachers and lovers.A independent woman sounds good,but she doesn't match well with our basic make-up.It may be old fashioned,but i believe the divorce rate now versus way back before the womens lib movement speaks for me.In case your thinking i'm just one man,i have conversations on a daily basis with my man friends on this very subject among other things about marriage.I also have 2 girls and i do want them to be smart enough to go it alone if the need should arise.At the sametime i want them to marry men that would provide for them(Hunter)or die for them(Protector) teach them to make home repairs or remodel(Teacher)and last but not least love them like the Lord loves them(Lovers).Just make sure that you will Honor him in all you do and he will love you forever. |
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Doug
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| 04/03/2009 5:01 PM |
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Every guy is different so there are so many different things we look for. Some guys look for the trophey some guys look for comfort and some guys look for both. But for me personally I like a great personality and someone who is very very very understanding (i've been told even at 32 i act like i'm 10) so i need someone who will put up with my joking and playing, someone who isn't too serious. I'll give you an example: the other day we went to the dr. (we are expecting no. 3) and i wanted to hide behind the curtain (the one u get undressed and put on the gown) and jump out at the nurse and go RAWR....unfortunately my wife said if I did she wouldn't let me go to anymore appointments so i didn't do it. but thats the kinda fun i like to have. I really wouldn't have done it but it was fun to think about what would happen if i did hahaha so it depends on the personality of the guy as to what kinda girl he wants.
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