My boyfriend rarely makes eye contact with me when we are talking.
I had not taken this behavior that seriously until this last week. He owns his own retail/wholesale business and it is a labor intensive business. I showed up at the business unexpectedly one evening to see him and he and his employees were loading a truck to ship the next day. He didn't acknowledge me and when I asked what I could do to help he didn't reply. One of the employees instructed me on how to help and I did so until the truck was loaded. Later that evening while at dinner and during the conversations when we were departing he avoided eye contact with me to the point of closing his eyes if he turned directly toward me.
I find this behavior confusing, as I am an eye contact type of person, and would like to better understand the reason behind the action in order to not compound the issue.
I am nearly 40 and am 2.5 years out of a 19.5 year marriage and he is 44, engaged once but never married and no recent relationships. I have known him for a year and we have been dating for six months. He is reluctant to share his true feelings with me because he fears hurting me, this he has admitted to me. I have not pursued a conversation with him about this because I would like him to open up to me as he feels comfortable doing so.
Insight would be helpful.
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